We spent the morning on the play ground to burn off some of that boy energy (LORD it's just different isn't it??). I watched Chunks run and slide and swing, hovering close by- this is NY after all but I noticed he wouldn't try the "new" obstacle courses unless he saw me or without me coaching him telling him he could do it and so our lesson began...
I was never the kind of mom who ran to my child's side every time he fell. I'd cringe because my Chunks was hurt but if it wasn't a bad fall (meaning blood or white meat) I'd just encourage him to get back up, dust off, and tell him to keep going with my favorite line "It's Nothing" and shortly he got it. They really do cry more when they see us freak out. I always wanted to be the one that encouraged him but now that he's getting older it might be time for him to trust HIMSELF a lil more. The first two times he went over the big bridge I walked beside the course and told him he could do it and to not be scared but then it was on him.
I backed off, disappeared behind some other parents but stayed close enough and let him do his thing. He hesitated, looked around for me, and started to turn back. I made a sound, "AH!" he couldn't see me but he heard and WENT FOR IT!
When he got to the other side he was SO happy that he did it and I was standing there ready with my high five and good job! And off he went...
Part II came to the ladder, he hadn't tried it before but saw some other kids his size scaling it with no issue and thought he should try. When he pulled up to the second rung something told him he couldn't do it so he started to climb down. AH! TRY! He heard me, but couldn't see me and I watched him think about it (it really was funny, he was stuck on the first rung really thinking LOL). I walked behind him and coached on how to do it never touching him and surprise surprise HE MADE IT!!
He celebrated for a minute and was on his way but I was stuck in that moment PROUD! Proud my kid knows he can do anything! Proud that he can be scared but trusts my voice enough that when I say he's good, he knows he's good. It's a minor to him right now, but it's a MAJOR I hope he takes with him always.
Live Life with a Laugh and a Get Back Up Spirit!
New courses are NOTHING to you son, Heaven's your limit!