The victim's mother, who seemed quiet herself ran up and told him to put his hands up and say NO!. Now typically I'm an average New Yorker in that I mind my business and let others deal with theirs but I think this pissed me off even worst. I walked over and told him not to let anyone jump in his face and just walk off with his stuff and then told her to take it to the other boy's parents. HE'S A BOY! I threw some looks at the hooligan's mother who then got up and got the ball back and scoffed "They were just playing" so I responded "It's not playing if someone gets hurt!" She told me I was taking it too seriously, so when I said "If it was yours I bet you wouldn't have been just sitting there" she had nothing else to say.
A few months back I took Chunks for our routine playground visit, at the time he was still getting a hang of walking so I kept him close by and on the swings. As I sat with him to tie his laces I noticed 2 little boys walk up and slap another and take his ball. The boy was younger than them and tried to run after them but gave up to tears. I couldn't believe it!!! Some how he got the ball back but then another little boy came and did almost the same thing, except he pushed him back but eventually lossed because this child was older than him too. What irritated me was that that boy's mother was sitting right there watching.
Some of the older ladies thanked me and said they didn't want to say anything but here I am with my little boy who will soon have to play with some of these rough kids and I couldn't imagine watching him go through that. I always believed that we as parents should not teach our children to be violent bullies but should a problem come their way they should know how to respond. If it's defending their ball, telling someone they don't like being hit, or just feeling confident that if anything happens they can handle themselves. When it comes to boys, I know fighting and challenges will be just a part of the process but when does it become bullying and when is it just boys being boys? Of course, we're there to supervise but what happens in the case where the care giver is a lax as the second mom? Some teachers let it slide or don't see, so who then makes sure our boys are ok?
I do not look forward to the day that the fun of toddler years end and he has to face things like this but I would love to know your input on this topic. Should we teach our boys to defend themselves? How much is too much when it comes to rough housing? When should one get involved? And if there is a lax parent overseeing, how do we approach them and let them know how we feel without getting into a fight yourself?