Wordless Wednesday-Spring Wishing

This Damn Itch!

I remember the first time I got it, I watched others who had already scratched theirs and smiled at the joy they must've been feeling. I wondered how amazing and great it would be to scrape at my own new-found itch, but where did it come from? Eventually I came to my senses and back to my reality of student and 20-something and just ignored that annoying itch. Mind Over Matter! If I don't entertain the thought, the itch won't bother me anymore and then go away! Right? Well one December morning, I discovered I'd scratched it and it SCARED THE CRAP OUTTA ME!! I went through nine months wondering WHY DIDN'T ANYONE TELL ME IT WASN'T SO CUTE?!?! Why am I SOOOO TIRED?!?!? and then in the end WHY DO PEOPLE MAKE THIS LOOK SO BAD?? Honestly and truly, those 12 hours were so much better than the preceding 9 months.


I said I would need time to forget before I even entertained the thought. I need to be in my OWN home before scratching was an option. Neither has happened just yet and oddly enough, I'VE GOT THE DAMN ITCH AGAIN!!

Someone tell me to snap out of it! Please, tell a sister to be real! We can't have another one right now, and I know this, but dammit if this itch isn't getting to me. Please no one tell the Mr, he'll just get excited lol this will be just our Bloggy lil secret, so in the mean time NO SCRATCHING!

Doing My Job As MOM vs An Open Blogger

When I was pregnant with Chunks I said I would not share any of his pics on Facebook (I wasn't blogging or on Twitter yet) because I didn't want anyone I wouldn't share his pics with in real life to have them all willy-nilly. Even to this day I haven't revealed his name to anyone on the web and I will not tell about his schools or any activity centers he may attend, that's not public business. A lot of my family members in Jamaica and England got on FB and asked for pictures, I e-mailed them to those who asked and things were fine. Then in-laws would post pics from cousin get-togethers and then I felt like my albums were kind of boring without pics of my little blessing and so I folded and added a few pics of Chunks but only allowed my friends to see them. I got into blogging and for a while I hesitated in putting his pics up here too but I wanted to be open and share his growth and fun times with my new found friends (You! silly) and all was fine.


I'm hardly on Facebook now but the other night I signed on and found that someone attempted to break into my account!! Someone in Pensacola, Florida tried to get into my account for God knows what reason. YES! I had my IT buddies trace your IP address and as SOON as I track your computer we'll have a convo as to WHAT you wanted with my account! I don't play those kinda games. Since this night I removed Chunks's pics from my FB and I considered to doing so here too.


I take my job as Mom VERY seriously and maybe if I didn't have Chunks I wouldn't have been so on about finding this hacker but he comes first in everything. My job as a mom is to raise a responsible and respectful man but also to protect and guide and I AM one of those mothers who believe it's my duty to devour the soul of ANYONE who wants to bring him harm! (These are actually my grandmother's words lol I told yall she was a trip). So while I want to be open and share Chunks and my experience in growing up, I have to find a middle ground where I can do this but also protect my guy.

Mom/Dad Bloggers have you found a middle ground between open blogging and protecting your little ones? Do you think a Mom/Dad blog without pics of their little ones is boring/lacking?

What's Been Happening

I've been a terrible blogger lately and it really is due to, well, LIFE! We're going through a lot of changes over here and I'm happy to say all for the better.


*I started my new job and LOVE my position. While it's not where I'll be for the next 10 years it's def a good fit for right now. The doctor I work for is ABSOLUTELY fabulous, she's sweet and charming and NOTHING like you'd expect a scientist to be. No Geeks over here! LOL


*Chunks is getting better at mastering the potty, #2 is still a little embarrassing to do lol so I'll move the potty to his own corner in the bathroom so he feels like he has his own area. He's also getting so much more into trying to read and I can't tell you how happy we are about it! He's picking out the letters he can remember and tries sounding it out like I do at story-time, it's TOO CUTE!


*Marriage. Work-In-Progress but getting back to what it was. We had a few hiccups but I'm learning to not always jump to "Put My Timbs On" mode first and he's learning too. I've prayed for restoration and to remove the spirit of doubt in both of us and God is definitely showing out!


*The Debt Diet is still on track. I've paid off one of my pain in the neck loans, PRAISE JESUS! So even though it set back the House-fund, it helped in eliminating some of our debt. Bitter-Sweet. With an increase in income, I shouldn't be so sorry once I get back on track with the savings. The Mr has gotten better with his spending too but his love-language is def gifts and he thinks sending me flowers and buying me things is the best way to show his affection so he's trying to work on it. Flowers are nice but they die! lol


*I'm working on a few things that I've always wanted to do but never had either the means or faith that I could. Thanking God again for working on my fear of stepping out.

So I've been busy so I thank you for sticking it out with me, I'll be back soon!

Glossy Pages-Project Happily Ever After

I've said it before, Marriage Is Hard Work! One thing that helps is when you reach out and realize that you are not the only one going through it and blogging DEF introduces you to a world of amazing people who aren't scared to show their battle scars and pass their lessons on to the newbies.

My new Glossy Page is Alisa Bowman's Project: Happily Ever After. When she realized that planning her husband's funeral  and repast down to the appetizers and music selection was NOT the norm of a young marriage, Alisa decided to devout the energy to helping her marriage and went on a mission to getting things back on track. Everyone has their "Let Me Tell You What He Did" story but Alisa has a very unique story of her own so far:

*He spent their honeymoon money on a ski trip with his friends

*Once their daughter was born, he FINALLY got a job and spent all his time at work, with his workers, and planning for it.

*Their daughter was HER responsibility.

And yet, she stayed, she talked to friends, and tried to get advice on what to do and committed herself to working with her husband to getting things back to better and beyond. I'm excited about the direction of the book and to see where things are with their marriage. So far its a fun read but hits home on so many levels, already a must read for the married and those thinking about it.

Who or What helps you guys when you face a rough patch?

Any good reads lately? Did anyone read Life After Yes? 

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME!!!

Today's a Sweet 16!! lol HA! Maybe a little too early to start lying but I'm actually looking forward to celebrating this ENTIRE weekend and thanking God for everything I've seen in this last year. Celebrate with me, put on some stilletos and raise a glass of Moscato this evening, when they ask why, say: IT'S CANDACE'S BIRTHDAY!!! lol (ignore the side eye glances you get though lol).